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<blockquote data-quote="Dai" data-source="post: 1818" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>It has been 5 years and 3 months since my diagnosis.&nbsp;&nbsp; I have read lots - seen counsellors and studied myself.&nbsp;&nbsp; Recently I watched the Swedish Detective Drama called &quot;The Bridge&quot; on BBC iplayer and find myself so in tune with Saga ( pronounced saiga)&gt; Towards the end of the last set she made the remark that betrayal by a close friend is the worst form of emotional distress, far worse than loosing a loved one.&nbsp; Why? We put a lot of store into those very few friends we have.&nbsp;&nbsp; We invest a lot of time in them, if they respond well to us, and over time may share a lot of personal stuff.&nbsp;&nbsp; Betrayal by such friends, is as I know, very very painful, and causes long term suffering.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; THEY - the non autistics just don't get it.&nbsp;&nbsp; And no I don't have control over everything.&nbsp;&nbsp; I am brutally honest and people hate this, I am highly focused on the things I am interested in to the exclusion of everything else, if I am not interested in the lives of others, I won't probe and wait till they tell me their stuff, my bad meltdowns can't be avoided nor can the rare shut downs,&nbsp; I need alone time, I have acute anxiety if I don't get answers fast, I am very attentive to the needs of others, and get frustrated by their slow sometimes indifferent response,&nbsp; I don't need reminding of important facts once in my brain they will be there for ever, though equally I can remove facts of no relevance and have no further recollection of them,&nbsp; I have to manage the different senses of which eye contact is tricky.&nbsp; Am I mentally sub normal?&nbsp;&nbsp; No I refute that. Majority society needs to get off its high horse and recognise us autistics, for our differences.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Dai, post: 1818, member: 35"] It has been 5 years and 3 months since my diagnosis. I have read lots - seen counsellors and studied myself. Recently I watched the Swedish Detective Drama called "The Bridge" on BBC iplayer and find myself so in tune with Saga ( pronounced saiga)> Towards the end of the last set she made the remark that betrayal by a close friend is the worst form of emotional distress, far worse than loosing a loved one. Why? We put a lot of store into those very few friends we have. We invest a lot of time in them, if they respond well to us, and over time may share a lot of personal stuff. Betrayal by such friends, is as I know, very very painful, and causes long term suffering. THEY - the non autistics just don't get it. And no I don't have control over everything. I am brutally honest and people hate this, I am highly focused on the things I am interested in to the exclusion of everything else, if I am not interested in the lives of others, I won't probe and wait till they tell me their stuff, my bad meltdowns can't be avoided nor can the rare shut downs, I need alone time, I have acute anxiety if I don't get answers fast, I am very attentive to the needs of others, and get frustrated by their slow sometimes indifferent response, I don't need reminding of important facts once in my brain they will be there for ever, though equally I can remove facts of no relevance and have no further recollection of them, I have to manage the different senses of which eye contact is tricky. Am I mentally sub normal? No I refute that. Majority society needs to get off its high horse and recognise us autistics, for our differences. [/QUOTE]

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